I am an ambitious person. As far back as I can remember I’ve been this way. Once I set my mind to do something it’s as good as done.
I’m a go-getter. I use people’s negativity to spur me forward.
My cousin once sent me a meme in which she said it made her think of me when she read it. It said: when someone gives you lemons you squeeze the juice in their eye and run! LOL
In addition to being an ambitious, go-getter, I’m an encourager. It’s a gift. I’m always encouraging people.
Because I’m an ambitious, encourager I like to see people succeed. I like to see people overcome. I like to see people be victorious. I’m a champion of people!
Doesn’t sound bad. But it can be.
I have a very, very bad tendency to waste time pouring into people who really don’t want to succeed. Their mouth says they does. But in reality, they are doing nothing to change their situation.
I recently had this experience with someone. I have to be honest. In my heart of hearts I knew they really didn’t want to do anything about their situation.
But I was so hurt by the things they were enduring; I still continued to encourage them and try to help them as much as I could. But the truth is that if they themselves were bothered by their situation, they themselves would have made some sacrifices to start changing their situation.
In my zealousness to help them, they turned on me. And, I thought wow! It was time for the rubber to meet the road. I would now see they didn’t want to do anything.
Of course, it hurt because my intentions and my heart were pure.
But I also have to take responsibility for not setting boundaries for myself. People have to want to help themselves!
But here is what I must learn:
- See people for who or what they really are regardless of who they are. When people show me who they are or I have a sense in my spirit of who they are, believe it!
- When I recognize that someone doesn’t want to help themselves, don’t go pouring into them trying to motivate them out of self-pity and laziness.
- I can’t change anyone but myself.
- I can’t want to see someone’s situation change more than they want their situation to change.
I won’t allow this situation to discourage me from encouraging people. But I will certainly learn from it and incorporate the lessons I’ve learned.
I’ll have to learn to know when to hold ‘em and when to fold ‘em.
Success is not by happenstance. It takes work!