I work with a guy who wants to fight every time we have a meeting. He spends 20 minutes of a 30-minute meeting fighting about something that’s not even worth fighting about.
Only to end up conceding to what was being suggested in the first place.
So, he gained absolutely nothing by being combative.
I must admit I used to be the same way. But as I’ve got older and wiser, I’ve realized that everything is NOT WORTH FIGHTING OVER!
I would get all worked up and get my blood pressure up for nothing.
Not only that, but I would also end up taking it home and rehearsing it. Ridiculous!
I have learned to pick and choose my battles. If it’s not something that benefits me or a greater common good, then I simply don’t worry about it.
I no longer waste time fighting where there are not spoils!
Think about that for a moment. When physical battles are being fought or war is being waged it is usually because someone feels that they have something to gain by doing so.
So, why do we waste time fighting about every little thing.
Somebody’ else’s fight is not always your fight. When my colleague goes on the warpath, I keep silent because it’s not my fight.
Again, there are no spoils for me.
Whether the relationship is professional or personal, no one wants to be in a relationship with someone who always wants to fight about everything.
It drains you mentally, emotionally and physically.
And, it just wastes time in which something productive could be accomplish.
Today make a commit not to fight where there are no spoils. That may mean not responding to someone’s foolishness that you REALLY want to respond to. Let it go.
Don’t engage in silly arguments in your family or at work. Let it go.
Before you get yourself caught up in a fight ask yourself if there are any spoils personally or for a common good. If not, choose not to fight that fight.
No More Fighting Where There Are No Spoils ~ Be Blessed