I’m amazed at the number of people who have no idea where they are going. I’m not talking about using a GPS to map a physical location. But I’m talking more about having life goals. I expect a young adult to not have an idea of where they’re going as they are just starting their adult life. It can sometimes take a little time to figure out where you’re going. But I’m floored to find people in their 50’s and beyond who don’t know or have focused on attaining the wrong goal in life. It’s as if they are blowing in the wind just hoping the land some place.
How can you get an idea of where you’re going?
- Understanding who you are and your background – I’ve found it’s important to understand who you are as a person. What are your likes and dislikes? What can you tolerate and for how long? These things often tie back to how we were raised. I don’t know of anyone and doubt that I will ever know anyone who had the perfect upbringing. So, don’t beat yourself up if you’re thinking your situation was not “ideal”. It’s the good, the bad and the ugly that shapes you. It all works together to make you the person you are. It all works together to put you on the path to where you are going.
- Understanding where you are – Where are you in your life now? What season of life are you in now? Life is lived in seasons. There are goals that you may have had in your youth that are unattainable now because that season has passed. Conversely, if you are in your youth there may be goals that you want to achieve that are possibly unattainable right now because you’ve not yet gotten to that season of life yet. There are also people who are living a life that is outside the realm of the season they “should” be living. It’s important to understand this because I’ve known people who would otherwise be considered more “seasoned” adults who were still trying to recapture their youth.
But then there are others who have had major life changes that’s affected what their goal was at a given time. I will use myself as an example. Once upon a time I wanted to climb the corporate ladder and become and executive in Information Technology. However, as time passed things changed. I found myself in a season in my life where climbing the corporate ladder was no longer important. So, my goal changed from climbing the corporate ladder to trying to make sure I could retire comfortably instead of trying to have a title.
Depending on the season in which you are life, your destination could change. This is because life happens. When life happens your perspective changes, your ideals change, your desires change. This is not a bad thing. This is simply a part of life. But you must be willing to pivot and change with life. Don’t waste time looking backward grieving over what you didn’t accomplish. Walk in the season you are in now. Even though the destination may have changed, I’ve found that you are usually able to leverage the skills, the knowledge and experience that you’ve gotten along the way. Those things will not be wasted. Think of them as the steppingstones needed to get to your next goal.
- Understanding how to get there – What is your plan? How do you plan to accomplish the goal? I meet so many people that have these big dreams, but don’t have a plan as to how to accomplish the dream or they are just plain lazy. If you want to get to where you’re going you need to have some definitive steps on how you’re going to get there. Just talking about it and dreaming about it doesn’t get you anywhere. You have to do something. If you want to go to the store, you must take definitive steps to get there. You have to get up; you have to put clothes on; you have walk out of the house; you have to get in your car or walk towards the store if you don’t have a car. In same way if you want to go somewhere in your life, you must take the necessary steps to get there.
Know Where You’re Going and Be Blessed